man, i am the most awkward nervous bashful queer around my crushes.

how is it that i always seem to crush on polyamorous femmes and/or queer ladies who, like, don’t see me *that way*?

merrrh.

ONE DAY i’ll find me a queer femme dude who likes to talk about feelings. ONE DAY.

(Source: factsaboutqueers)

mmmajestic:

bambi legay

my mustache is catching up to yours.

outofthewild:

open-homes:

Woohoo! Let’s get this bumping!

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signal boost

maybe-i-need-you:

Andrea Gibson dancing to Adele’s “Rolling in the Deep” whilst promoting Write Bloody Publishing books.

I didn’t know I wanted this until now.

heartdashbeats:

quelola:

Like duh they’re linked but I’m thinking more and more about it and it just irks me to the point where I don’t feel like calling myself queer anymore. In the same way I stop calling myself a feminist, Hispanic (this was the earliest thing I dropped in my teens), obese, etc.

Like how I relate to other queers is important but I’m also seeing the ways that I can’t and that pocs don’t have the same liberties as white queers. White supremacy manifest itself in queer communities in so many ways:

-bashing back is a privilege
-access to community spaces
-safety is not a given for poc
-expression of any kind (be it art, gender, or just talking/sharing)
-access to the medical industrial complex
-community support
-educational access: meaning finding yourself reflected in literature and having that literature being taught in academia
-queer culture being commodified by everyone/ especially white people. See: vogueing

One of the biggest parts of being queer for me is being political and even that is I can’t fully “grasp” either. Because marking my body and myself as political or opening up myself to be vulnerable to attack puts me at risk a lot differently. I find myself being able to relate tote label less and less.

Idk maybe I’ll think of something different or choose to be without a lable or poc queers should think of another term. Even reclaiming the term queer is rooted in privilege. When an elder poc trans women said she hates the term queer because it was thrown at her as she walked down the street and carries all bad connotations, that she doesn’t understand how young people could embrace it and urging us not to use it. It shook me to my core and made me uncomfortable because I think deep down inside I know she is right.

Like if being queer was really about what it’s definition is, none of the above would be an issue. In a ways, queers don’t really exist/ people shouldnt be able to claim that label unless they are really actively and consciously are trying to fuck up white supremacy. I don’t see the community really doing that.

So here’s an ask: do you know of any writing by POC that touches on any of this?

YESYESYES. THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS.

I am coming to the conclusion that I cannot relate to queerness as I have experienced it and read about it as a poc in canada. It is a very very white term.

queersecrets:

A picture of a pregnant belly. Text: I feel guilty about identifying as a gay transguy because I had a baby…  And I wouldn’t mind having another.

Please don’t feel guilty! That’s inspiring. So nice to know that there are folks out there like you. That makes me feel less weird about being a queer trans guy who contemplates parenthood.

transartorialism:

so much of entering into queer relationships is knowing death, knowing that the dizzying swirl of life can crush you or your friend or your love like half-smoked cigarette at any time. we fight every moment of our lives and for some of us the fight is infinitely more…

“he wasn’t talking about immortality; he was talking about that underlying fear we all feel about those queer folks we love, that they will make it, that they can bear it, that we won’t have to watch them die.  and it’s a fear we always feel for ourselves, too.”

brazenbitch:

Someone took a photo of me without my knowledge or permission and it was passed around while people made fun of my fatness/generally the way I look.

This guy (the same one who harassed me for my queerness/supporting LGBTQA rights, and wore the “fuck fags” t-shirt and NOTHING…

(Source: blck-grrl)