When we struggle, we hold certain truths.
We recognize that this society was never meant for us, and yet we exist; some us thriving, some of us barely surviving.
We recognize that the systems built to nourish and protect us are little more than fairy tales whose true…
What we truly know ourselves to be should be the only determinant of our gender in society. Set aside your doubts, start educating yourself and respect that we are who we say we are. By doing this you are saying: ‘I see you, I support you, I respect you.’ By not doing this, you let trans people know: ‘I don’t understand you and I’m not trying to. What you tell me about yourself is not important, all that’s important is how I think of you. I am not your ally. You are not safe with me.’ Being referred to or treated as the wrong gender feels painful and disrespectful to us.
It is hard and dangerous to change your name and pronoun. Know that it has taken a lot of courage for this person to let you know who they really are; they are sharing something very precious. It may seem hard or silly to you at first, but it can be a matter of life and death for us.
Sometimes I feel like it needs to be acknowledged more often that we’re often just a bunch of silly little kids with only the vaguest idea of what we want to be doing. How a lot of us may want to figure out how to get out of bed with a smile on our faces. Not all of us are sure how to put pants on one leg at a time. We often need to check and make sure we’re not putting too much milk in our cereal.
We’re allowed to be uncertain and doubtful. We don’t wake up one day with all the skills we need to survive in this world. It’s a learning process that even 30-somethings and 40-somethings go through. From what I’ve noticed, people have thick skulls and thin skins. We’re still learning to live life for the first time.
Give each other a break, okay?
So I’ve been dealing with a lot of emotional, psychological, and spiritual turmoil lately trying to untangle how I feel about the possibility of taking T. I have a lot of conflicting and contradictory feelings about it and I have a hard time weeding my honest-to-goodness desires and needs out of a…
Survival is important.
feeling safer today. got some help and talked about my many feelings. drank tea.
came up with some immediate coping methods and helpful things.
was able to joke and smile so that is good. not really sure why i’m always able to be so good-humored, even in the face of really shitty things.
i need to remember that i don’t have to be okay. it’s okay to not be okay. i may not be depressed right now but that does not invalidate my feelings.
cups of tea today so far? 2.