The Ink-Stained Queer

Can I write a song about gender trauma? tw: cissexism

Mon, 20 May 2013 00:47:00 -0400

So-ometimes I misgender myself

thanks to brainwashing

So-ometimes I wish I was cis

But what-ifs are not helpful

[Chorus:]

Gender and I are not friends

Oh no, not friends

But not enemies either cuz

that is too haaaaard

We mostly just side-eye each other

on the bus!

So-ometimes my past is a ghost

and haunts me on the street

making me think I see the old me

but it is not truuuuuue.

[Chorus]

So-ometimes I wish I wasn’t

huuuuuman

and I could be a squid

a dragon, a mermaid, a gargoyle

because it’s preferable to

being called it

but monsters are called it too

so maybe I will be friends with monsters

instead of being friends with gender

since we mostly just

side-eye each other on the bus!

“And I’m sorry young man I cannot be your friend I don’t...

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:38:31 -0400

“And I’m sorry young man I cannot be your friend
I don’t believe in a fairytale end.
I don’t keep my head up all of the time,
I find it dull when my heart meets my mind.
And I hardly know you I think I can tell,
These are the reasons I think that we’re ill.
I hardly know you I think I can tell,
These are the reasons I think that I’m ill.”

“My Manic and I” by Laura Marling

OHNO strangers in the house and i feel anti-social tumblr, i only want to talk to queers and trans...

Sun, 19 May 2013 18:12:29 -0400

OHNO strangers in the house and i feel anti-social

tumblr, i only want to talk to queers and trans people right now. please send me messages about your day and your life right now, if you are happy or sad or ragey or what have you.

trocementheatral replied to your post: shit, friends, please remind me that spending...

Sun, 19 May 2013 17:57:40 -0400

trocementheatral replied to your post: shit, friends, please remind me that spending even…

Oogling books is always a good pastime. I like to oogle house decor boutiques too. I’m weird like that.

No, that totally makes sense to me! I like to imagine what kind of furniture I want in my future house; maybe you think similar thoughts?

have I ever mentioned that I am pretty much completely convinced that growing up trans in a...

Sun, 19 May 2013 17:52:46 -0400

have I ever mentioned that I am pretty much completely convinced that growing up trans in a cis-centric world has given me some kind of gender trauma?

shit, friends, please remind me that spending even half a day at my dad’s makes me feel sad...

Sun, 19 May 2013 17:50:13 -0400

shit, friends, please remind me that spending even half a day at my dad’s makes me feel sad for incomprehensible reasons. I should’ve made plans to go into the city, even if it was to oogle books and not buy anything.

"If I love you, is that a fact or a weapon?"

Sun, 19 May 2013 16:54:18 -0400

“If I love you, is that a fact or a weapon?”

- Margaret Atwood

(via fleurdulys)

theparisreview: The shaven rinds of lemon we squeeze and...

Sun, 19 May 2013 12:00:21 -0400

theparisreview:

The shaven rinds of lemon
   we squeeze and stir
      into our espresso,

The snowfall
   of sugar across berries,
      custard and crust—

Some last delights
   among which it is easy to dream
      that my fingers unbraiding

Your hair by the nightstand
   conceal no repercussion,
      that the sweep of my palm

Across your navel
   harbors no future grief.
      The halved melon smells good

To us—
   we are rinsing
      the reek of espresso beans

From our hands,
   we are soaking cake
      in Kahlúa, and later

We will wash that too
   out of the glass dish
      and the feast

Will be wiped from the table
   and done with.
      And because everything is

This brevity,
   the sound of the fork set down on
      the empty plate at last,

Your finger’s trace
   through the devoured
      pastry’s leftover cream

Signaling the end
   of desire, there is a place
      in the unlit bedroom,

There by the closed and curtained window,
   where we’ll take each other
      into the dark.

—Gianmarc Manzione, “This Brevity”
Photography Credit Nadav Kander

Nydia Dauphin: Why The Hell Are Quebec Comedians Wearing Blackface?

Sun, 19 May 2013 11:35:48 -0400

Nydia Dauphin: Why The Hell Are Quebec Comedians Wearing Blackface?:

equivoque:

yanbasque:

Quebecois culture has a fucked up love affair with racist humour. It’s gross.

WOW are you kidding me

you-looked-but-didnt-see: THIS ~was the highlight of my...

Sat, 18 May 2013 22:24:19 -0400

you-looked-but-didnt-see:

THIS ~was the highlight of my saturday night!~

"Falling in love with yourself is as beautiful as any experience of love is. It’s learning to laugh..."

Sat, 18 May 2013 12:00:29 -0400

“Falling in love with yourself is as beautiful as any experience of love is. It’s learning to laugh at your awkward tendencies and smile at all your quirky habits. It’s learning to be grateful for the many sides you have – confident, crazy, shy, sexy, nerdy, angry, weird, and all the rest of them. It is realizing that you’re one of a kind and that you deserve to give the world the best person you can be. Falling in love with yourself is being happy in your life and knowing that in this one moment in time, you’re beautiful simply because you are you.”

- Kovie Biakolo, Falling In Love With Yourself (via larmoyante)

I wanna read stuff about anarchist critiques of unions...!

Fri, 17 May 2013 22:57:28 -0400

shayrhymeswithgay:

Does this exist!? Where can I find it!?

handgrenade2: Are You Checking Me Out Or Trying To Figure Out My Gender: A Life Story.

Fri, 17 May 2013 22:43:20 -0400

handgrenade2:

Are You Checking Me Out Or Trying To Figure Out My Gender: A Life Story.

Audio

Fri, 17 May 2013 22:40:03 -0400

FUCK, TUMBLR IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT I’VE BECOME A DOCTOR WHO FAN AND I’VE ONLY EVER...

Fri, 17 May 2013 22:32:00 -0400

FUCK, TUMBLR

IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT

I’VE BECOME A DOCTOR WHO FAN

AND I’VE ONLY EVER SEEN THREE EPISODES IN MY WHOLE LIFE, BY FLUKE

IT’S BECAUSE OF ALL THOSE DAMNED GIFS

I tested a violent video game for the past two days and now I feel really weird and shitty. Staring...

Fri, 17 May 2013 22:05:55 -0400

I tested a violent video game for the past two days and now I feel really weird and shitty. Staring at a screen for 16 hours hurts my brain and my soul. I was in a windowless room too and that did not help.

catsandgraffitis: Not ur babe/feminist killjoy

Fri, 17 May 2013 21:09:41 -0400

catsandgraffitis:

Not ur babe/feminist killjoy

I HOPE U GET THE JOB AH

Fri, 17 May 2013 20:50:31 -0400

THANKS YO

Things I'm Expected To Do for Cis People in Return for Their Not Hating Me: An Angry List

Fri, 17 May 2013 12:00:22 -0400

Things I'm Expected To Do for Cis People in Return for Their Not Hating Me: An Angry List:

wanderlustprince:

radtransfem:

After seeing bidyke’s remix of sanctimonioussilentagony’s list, I thought I’d sketch out the beginnings of one for transsexual folk.

Improvements welcome:

Answer any and all questions about my body and my medical treatment no matter how invasive

Answer questions about my partner’s sexuality

Listen to their stories about other trans* people they know

Listen to them talk and give them my opinions on trans* celebrities

Celebrate with them all fictional depictions of trans* folk, no matter how misrepresentative or outright transphobic

Congratulate them on their correct use of names and pronouns

Obey when they refer to me incorrectly and tell me that I “must forgive them”

Smile sadly and thank them when they tell me how brave I am

Use the accessible toilet and be grateful

Stay silent if they misidentify me as gay and cis

Sympathise with their excuses for their and others’ transphobia

Approve their use of the word ‘tranny’

Act ‘gendered’ enough but not too ‘gendered’
note: these prohibitions overlap with no middle ground

Never, ever, express or articulate any kind of sexuality
this one may be trans*-woman-specific?

actually, I guess not

Stay quiet when cis-specific issues are being discussed

Never raise trans*-specific issues

Never get angry or upset about cissexism and transphobia

Never call out cis people on cissexism and transphobia

Not mention specific legal protections for transsexual people to my employers

Only be transsexual without having any other identities

Silently excuse myself from activities and events which structurally exclude me

Do so without raising any attention or being noticed by anybody

Not hang out with too many other trans* people or seek trans*-only space

Never repost Asher’s “Die Cis Scum”

If I die, die quietly, and never blame them.

xcrimsonstarx: strangest-soul: riddleharry: troyesivan: asper...

Thu, 16 May 2013 19:13:26 -0400

xcrimsonstarx:

strangest-soul:

riddleharry:

troyesivan:

asperfectasharmony:

whatthefunniest:

letters-from-the-skyy:

This makes me laugh so hard every time.

This moment ruined that entire movie for me because it absolutely destroyed the image of dumbledore

because he’s galloping?

WELL?!? DID YA?!?!

I ACTUALLY CANT NO BREATHE

Lmao! I never noticed that!