Anonymous asked: you talk about your parents like they aren't connected to you anymore. do you still love them like you did?

Good question, anon. I have not noticed this. You are quite observant.

I think that I grew up believing the myth that birth families are happy, wonderful, safe, comforting collectives of people who care for one another. I think that I thought my parents were perfect human beings, because when you are a kid it can seem like your parents can do no wrong.

This is not true. Families are not perfect. Parents can say and do shitty things. I still live with my mom so maybe the distancing way I talk about them is my trying to disconnect with them a bit.

I do love my parents. I just don’t love them blindly. I have been deeply hurt by much of what they have said and expressed about my transition. There is a small degree of personal distrust towards them because of particular things expressed (for example, I hide my bottle of testosterone because I—perhaps irrationally—worry my mom will throw it out.)

I feel like that once I finally move out (one day) and they become supportive of my transition, my relationship to my parents will improve greatly.

I hope that answers your question. <3