I am going to ramble about gender.

Gender is fucking complicated, y’know? I thought I was a butchy bisexual genderqueer. Then I realized that I was a queer FTM who had a soft spot for ascots and bow ties.

But my desire to queer masculinity is starting to feel like it’s eclipsing the idea of the trans prefix (which means ‘crossing over’). What lines am I crossing over? Where was my starting point? Is there an end? Am I even crossing over anything at all?

I want those red knee-length diamond-studded high heel boots because I want them. This does not invalidate my transsexual identity in any way. I want to look fabulous in those boots, even if they are marketed towards women-identified people. I want to queer masculinity but I also want to look gorgeous the way I define gorgeous.

That definition is starting to feel non-binary, even if I don’t feel like I can live that definition yet. But what is non-binary anyway?

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4. fluidityb answered: Awesomeness :). If there is no binary, then what (or why) are you crossing over?
5. sampanink answered: not an easy question. no easy answers…
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   reasons) why the literal “crossing” meaning...is cissexist and busted

10. summerflew answered: I’ve been having trouble with my gender as well. I’ve thought that I might be Neutrois, or Agendered just recently.
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