this is less to do with your blog, but my friend has a tattoo of the Rider Waite version of the strength card and it's gorgeous, and I've been seriously considering the hanged man as a tattoo. so a tarot card that has a lot of meaning for your life would be wicked.
oh yeah I’ve totally thought about that. I would get my own adaptation of the Magician. It’s important to me as it represents an empowered individual who uses their will to choose what is best for them.
The Hanged Man is rad but I associate that card too much with Odin to go with it.
“Here is the handful
of shadow I have brought back to you:
this decay, this hope, this mouthful
of dirt, this poetry.”—Margaret Atwood, “Mushrooms,” from Notes Towards a Poem That Can Never Be Written (via lifeinpoetry)
As a fellow bisexual woman, I've got a few hate messages saying some things among the lines of ''bisexual people are just transphobic pansexuals'', what's your opinion on that?
My opinion is that the pansexual vs bisexual thing has to end. It’s so petty and pointless and when we’re divided, it stops us from focussing on the real issues like bi and pan erasure, and y’know, general human rights.
Bisexuals and pansexuals should be friends. We’re very similar. Some of us even define ourselves in exactly the same way.
Being bisexual isn’t transphobic because the most broadly used definition of bisexuality is: attraction to same and different genders or attraction to more than one gender.
Trans people don’t have their own special category. Trans men are men. Trans women are women.
When I say I’m attracted to women, I mean women. Obviously including trans women.
When I say I’m attracted to men, I mean men. Obviously including trans men.
When I say I am attracted to non-binary people, I mean exactly that.
I don’t think it’s a difficult concept for people to grasp, so I think this argument is rooted in biphobia, not in concern for the trans community.
Bisexuality is not problematic by definition. Sure, there are going to be individual bisexuals that are transphobic but there are bad eggs in just about every group in the world. This isn’t a problem unique to the bi community, and to frame it like that is just plain biphobia.
I could define myself as pansexual or bisexual. Most bisexuals probably could. I chose bisexuality because it is more broadly known about, and I am very determined to show people that bisexuality isn’t wrong. I refuse to not call myself bisexual because biphobic people are uncomfortable with the term for bigoted, unfounded, and ignorant reasons.
Seriously, why are we hating on each other? We’re supposed to be a community. We get enough hate and abuse from the outside world. We don’t need this pointless bullshit on top of all that.
“People assume that I was in the closet because I didn’t disclose that I was assigned male at birth. What people are really asking is ‘Why didn’t you correct people when they perceived you as a real woman?’ Frankly, I’m not responsible for other people’s perceptions and what they consider real or fake. We must abolish the entitlement that deludes us into believing we have the right to make assumptions about people’s identities and project those assumptions onto their gender and bodies.
It is not a woman’s duty to disclose she’s trans to every person she meets. This is not safe for a myriad of reasons. We must shift the burden of coming out from trans women, and accusing them of hiding or lying, and focus on why it is unsafe for women to be trans.”—Janet Mock, Redefining Realness. (via queerbookclub)
562. Homesick muggleborns find that the Room of Requirement turns into a comfy living room with a telephone for those times they really need their parents advice or to catch up with their siblings who go to muggle schools.
574. Muggleborns casting the Patronus Charm. One gets a Steelix and another gets a Gyarados and the purebloods are terrified of those two students for the rest of the year. The muggleborns, however, think that they’re the toast of the town but those magically-raised are convinced that they’re using dark magic.
605. Muggleborns wanting to get muggle jobs, but not being able to put Hogwarts on their CV’s. They band together to create a fake school with a fake website that they can all list when applying to jobs, with one of the muggleborn teachers handling all of the references because they know how to email and telephone. (Of course this has created a bit of confusion with muggle parents trying to enroll their muggle kids at the fake school).
evertea said: Apparently black out curtains are the best. I have yet to invest, but considering I’m a nurse and therefore doomed to night shifts, I really should.
At my dad’s, the guest room I sleep in has a dark navy curtain. It’s perfect. It works super well for me. I totally encourage anyone who has trouble sleeping deeply to invest in really dark curtains. Or even a thick black sheet.
quizzicallyqueer said: The sun wakes me in my new place and sleeping with a blindfold has been a game changer for me. It’s a little weird at first but so much better than the pillow over the head thing
yeah I’ve tried it. the blindfold gives me headaches after awhile. I’m really sensitive to headaches. I have periods of several days where I am constantly walking around with a dull ache in my head.
I drink water, sleep okay, etc. I dunno what’s wrong.
(2/2) The tent itself would hopefully muffle sounds from outside while also amplifying the white-noise inside the tent. (you could also DIY speakers for your phone/noise-making-whatever) And also tape cute/inspiring pictures on the inside of the tent making it a sort of 'safe place tent' where I could either sleep, or go to when I get overwhelmed or anxious. And fill it with stuffed animals and pillows and blankets like I said before. You could even stick a tiny fan in if it gets hot! XD
Safe place tent!!!
Although really, I try to make my room a safe place for me. Lots of art from friends, medieval stuff, books…
(1/2)Sleep problems UGH: (to anon and you) It is such a TRIAL to go to bed. I'm planning on taping/hanging up a sheet/blanket over my dorm window and holding it there with pins of some kind and that might(?) cut out some noise and I won't be paranoid about someone watching me through my window. I've actually thought about getting a one-person tent, setting it up on my bed, filling it with blankets and pillows and then having some kind of white-noise sound maker that I could put inside.
I can’t decide if that sounds like a huge hassle or a lot of fun.
I’ve learned to sleep with my pillow over my head after 5 a.m. because the sun wakes me.
I bought some oral stimming products from chewigem the other day so i'm waiting for them to arrive. As far as ear buds, i have a par but they are so uncomfortable to sleep in because they rub against whatever my head is laying on and making more sounds. My dorm only allows you to use painters tape. Do you like to read blog posts?
I hope your snail mail service is good and that those products arrive in your mailbox super fast.
UGH YES same, the earbuds rub against my pillow and it makes a very distracting noise.
Shit well painters tape doesn’t work for hanging up art or anything. I’ve tried it and totally had the same thing happen where my posters would fall off my walls and scare the crap out of me in the middle of the night.
I am a light sleeper too. i made blinds for my dorm room so i could sleep better. but things keep falling off my walls and waking me up. i feel lost because it makes me mad and sad and slightly confused because stuff like weighted blankets , sensory related stuff cost so much! why do necessary things have to cost so much? Also it sucks because i have no way of being able to see a doctor and i have no way to talk to a doctor about possibly getting diagnosed on the autism spectrum.
fuck, that really sucks.
do you have things you can do to manage the hard stuff in the meantime?
good on you for making those blinds. that sounds super useful. would a stronger tape help keep art/things on your walls?
also, re: sleeping lightly. I tried ear plugs for awhile but they only block off the loudest edge of sound. have you tried them? I find they fall out of my ears or hurt my ears after awhile. also, they are kind of expensive if you want to buy them all the time.
I'm sorry you are tired. i understand. I have sleeping issues and i worked a 7 hour shift today. may i ask what you are writing? I am lost i think thats what you call this. Thanks for asking?
Ouf. I feel ya on the sleeping issues. I am a light sleeper who needs utter darkness to sleep. I wake up in the night a lot and can’t get back to sleep. I took sleeping pills for awhile. My sleep was deeper and it was nice.
Lost. Yes. I know that feeling. If you feel like sharing, why do you feel lost?
I am writing an ~imaginary~ conversation with a Muse.
It’s okay to be soft when the rest of the world is rough. It’s okay that you’re easily upset. It’s okay that you get hurt easily. It’s not a bad thing that you feel so much.
It’s okay that your hands shake.
It’s okay that you like dirty mirrors and blurry pictures better than crisp images of yourself because you’re so used to being a ghost. It’s okay to not feel real sometimes.
You don’t have to be pretty when you cry. It’s okay that your mind plays tricks on you so often that you have no idea what you actually look like.
Remind yourself that it is okay to disconnect. It’s okay to take time to recharge.
It’s okay to be alone. It’s okay to be lonely and to be vulnerable.
It’s okay to hate yourself but only if you remind yourself that it is not permanent. It’s okay to be sad as long as you remind yourself that it is not permanent.
As long as you are alive, you are growing, changing. I think the world is changing as much as I am because the trees outside my window don’t look the same as they did yesterday. I don’t think I will ever be the same person I was when I was at my worst.
Know that honesty is the easiest way to heal.
So maybe you don’t hate who you are now. You hate who you were yesterday. Your mind hasn’t caught up with your growth.
Promise me, promise me you’ll remind yourself that it’s okay to be yourself tomorrow.